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Sudden death can be extremely traumatic. It's often said that, when someone dies suddenly, it is harder for the family but better for the one who passed - this is because the loved one passed without realisation of the situation, but it leaves the family in a state of shock and numbness.
In the vast majority of sudden death cases, there is no opportunity to prepare for the loss, which can make it even more shocking and emotionally challenging.
The very nature of sudden death means that you don't have time to get affairs in order. Sudden deaths may leave important conversations or unresolved issues, leading to a sense of unfinished business and regret.
Witnessing or discovering a sudden death can result in traumatic experiences for those who are present. Trauma often compounds the grief.
The unexpected nature of sudden death can complicate the grieving process, as individuals may struggle to come to terms with the abruptness of the loss.
The emotional impact of a sudden death can be more intense, as there is often little time to prepare or say goodbye, leading to heightened feelings of shock and disbelief.
With any sort of bereavement, there is no correct way to grieve. Grief is personal and by no means linear. There is never a right way to feel, but below are some common emotions that you may experience after a sudden death. It is important to understand, however, that whatever feeling you are experiencing, it is valid.
Numbness is our minds way of protecting itself from pain. Sometimes you may be unable to think clearly or could get confused and experience what could be considered brain fog. This is a way that your brain disassociates with the overwhelming grief and emotions. You might be confused why you, or someone close to the deceased, isn’t crying - this doesn’t mean that love and grief isn’t there, it’s likely just because they/you are numb.
With sudden death, it is completely common for you to be in a state of denial and disbelief. Your brain struggles to comprehend that your loved one was here one moment and then gone the next, with no warning.
Anger is a very common reaction to any death, particularly sudden death. It could be directed towards those who caused the sudden death, authority figures, or even the ones you love the most who are the closest to you.
Sudden death often evokes feelings of guilt. The very nature of sudden death means that you didn't have a chance to declare your love, right your wrongs, say what you wanted to say, or even say goodbye.
When someone dies suddenly and unexpectedly, it can leave you feeling anxious and worried about your own and your loved ones health or death.
Often with sudden death, there are traumatic circumstances surrounding the passing. With a traumatic event, flashbacks of the event are all too common - flashbacks that are unpredictable and random and/or triggered by something. Some people even experience sounds, smells, and tastes.
More often than not, a sudden death is also an unexpected one. When a death of this nature occurs, certain agencies are enlisted in order to investigate and understand the cause of the passing.
This can be a very difficult process for the bereaved families to navigate, especially considering they are already grieving and likely in a state of numbness and disbelief.
Sudden Sam are here to help you throughout this process. After Sam died suddenly, I found myself struggling with, not only my grief, but also with knowing what to do next - it was all completely new to me and I felt like I was being bombarded with information and it was a struggle to comprehend it. In the weeks after Sam died, my mum and I went to register his death, only to be told once we were sat down at our appointment that it wasn't possible due to the investigation - it was when I was walking home, consoling our mum, that I thought 'where is the support and guidance for this?'
Please see below for a brief description of some general key process and terms that are associated with sudden death. Hopefully these help, but please do not hesitate to contact us at Sudden Sam for advice or simply somebody to talk to.
Police officers attend all incidents of sudden or unexpected deaths that occur outside of a hospital or medical setting - they are the initial representatives for the Coroner’s Office. Typically, it is uniformed officers who attend first, followed by plain clothed officers (these are normally detectives).
The police will determine if an investigation is needed, and if it isn't, they will contact the local coroner office and the deceased will be taken to the local mortuary.
The police will likely ask further questions - this is to obtain enough details to make a formal report to the coroner about the circumstances of the death.
Certain items of your loved ones belongings could be taken by the police - these will be returned back to you at a later date, typically by the coroner.
A coroner is a special type of judge appointed by a local authority to investigate certain deaths. Coroners are usually lawyers, but sometimes they can be doctors. They are appointed by a local authority but remain independent judicial office holders.
It is the coroner's job to investigate deaths that are reported to them. They will make whatever inquiries are necessary to find out the cause of death and decide whether an investigation is needed; and if it is,
A coroner officer is an individual who works for the coroner. They provide a link between the coroner and the bereaved family. It will be this officer who is your main point of contact throughout the investigation. They will:
If you are a close relative or the personal representative of the deceased, you'll be classed as an 'interested person'. An interested person has certain rights during the investigation and inquest - they're able to receive information and other documents and evidence, such as witness statements and reports obtained by the coroner, and will also be told of key dates, including inquests.
It is important to remember that the coroner's office are there to help you and keep you updated. You should be given a direct contact within the coroner's office. You do not need to wait for them to contact you - if you have a question, you should absolutely reach out to them via telephone or email.
A post-mortem is a medical examination of the body in order to establish the cause of death. The coroner decides if a post-mortem is needed. The pathologist will then complete a report detailing what they did in the post-mortem and what they found, and send it to the coroner. As an interested person, you're entitled to receive a copy of this - however, you should consider this carefully and consider the emotive nature of the content.
If the post-mortem shows a natural cause of death, the coroner will not need to investigate any further and the body will be released to you. If the results show the death is unnatural or certain circumstances apply, the coroner may decide that an investigation is needed. Typically, the body would still be released to you at this point as the post-mortem has already been completed - your coroner office will inform you of this.
It is a legal requirement to inform the government when someone has died - this is to be completed within five days of the passing. For a sudden death however, where the coroner is involved, then you are not able to register the death until the investigation has finished and the inquest, if there is one, has been concluded.
This can be distressing and make the loved ones feel as if they're in limbo. Whilst the investigation is ongoing, you will be given an 'interim death certificate' from the coroner office. Even if the cause of death has been established through the post-mortem, the death certificate will state 'unknown' for the reason until the investigation has concluded. The interim death certificate will enable the deceased family to start the process of informing certain agencies and providers of the passing, so that contracts and services will be cancelled. Once the investigation has been concluded, you will be issued with a death certificate and will be able to register the death of your loved one.
You are able to liaise and meet with a funeral director of your choosing at any point throughout the investigation, even if your loved one's body has not been released yet. During this meeting, you would be able to discuss options and share both your wishes and the wishes of your loved one. You just wouldn't be able to commit to a date.
The coroner office will inform you when your loved one's body can be released. Your chosen funeral director will transport your loved one to their chapel of rest, where you would normally then have the option of organising a viewing. It is at this point that you would be able to organise a date for the funeral.
Funerals can be expensive and, all too often, people who die from sudden death to not have life insurance. At Sudden Sam, we do not want money to be a barrier or a burden to you at this tragic time.
An inquest is a public court hearing held by the coroner to decide who died and why, and where the death happened. The coroner will hear from witnesses and consider other evidence such as the post-mortem or expert reports. An inquest is a fact finding inquiry in order to find the details needed for the death to be registered - it is not a criminal trial. Not all deaths which are investigated by the coroner need to have an inquest.
You will be informed by the coroner's office if your loved one will be having an inquest.
It is worth bearing in mind that it is not uncommon for an inquest date to be adjourned - this could be for a number of reasons, such as investigations from other organisations linked to your loved one's death needing to be completed first.
Inquests should take place within six months of the death or as soon as possible after. If the coroner has not completed their investigation within twelve months of the death, they must write a report to the chief coroner giving their reasons for the delay.
The coroner decides, based on the findings of the investigation, who is called as a witness - these could include people relevant to the death, such as health professionals or the police. Witnesses will first be questioned by the coroner, but 'interested persons' (such as the loved ones family or their legal representation) also have the right to ask questions. If you believe that you have evidence or that a particular witness should be called, you should inform the coroner's office as soon as possible.
It is not for the coroner to decide or appear to decide any question of criminal or civil liability or to apportion guilt or attribute blame. The coroner will fact find to establish the cause of death. When giving the cause of death, the coroner or jury may make one of the following conclusions:
It is worth noting that these conclusions can be joined, for example, a 'drug related accidental death'. Alternatively, or sometimes in addition, the coroner may make a brief ‘narrative’ conclusion which sets out the facts surrounding the death in more detail and explains the reasons for the decision. A narrative conclusion is likely to be given when the case is more complicated as it can give a longer explanation of the reasons for the decision and what the important issues are.
Sometimes a coroner’s investigation will show that something could be done to prevent other deaths. If the coroner considers this to be the case, the coroner would write a report bringing this to the attention of an organisation or person who may be able to take action. This is called a ‘report to prevent future deaths’ or a ‘Regulation 28 Report’.
The organisation or person must send the coroner a written response, within
56 days, to the report, saying what action it will take as a result. As in interested party, you would be able to see this form.
Every case of sudden death is unique. There are some circumstances where the process may be different. Factor such as where your loved one passed away and the nature of their death would determine this.
For example, if your loved one passed away in a hospital or healthcare facility, and it was sudden, the hospital would conduct their own investigation alongside the coroner’s. This would involve a mortality review. The reviews are designed to assess the care and treatment provided to the person who died and to identify any opportunities for learning and improvement. It is common for the hospital to invite the deceased family members into a panel meeting to discuss the case.
The hospital would complete their report, and if requested by the coroner, a position statement and send their findings to the coroner. The coroner would then use these findings to help form their investigation and subsequent inquest.
Another example of a difference would be if your loved one passed away in prison or police custody. In this case, an inquest is compulsory and it is known as an ‘article 2 inquest’. The prison would conduct their own investigation. They would nominate a named investigator who would lead the investigation and a family liaison officer would liaise with the bereaved family. The investigator would gather evidence about what was happening to the person before their death - this includes examining all the relevant records and policies, together with interviews with relevant staff and prisoners or residents, if required. They would then send their findings to the coroner.